Tuesday, September 9, 2008

Is your partner cheating on you?

Do you often ponder that your relationship is losing its original charm? Is your partner spending late nights in his/her office or he is making excuses for not spending enough quality time with you? Is he temperamental and distant? Is he losing interest in sex?
If the answer to any of these questions is 'yes', there is a possibility that your partner is cheating on you.
Top ten reasons why you shouldn't trust him...
Whether you are married or in a steady relationship, being betrayed is the most sore pain that can happen to you. Here are the top ten warning signs to watch out for...
1) He is reluctant to introduce you to his friends/parents. This is a sure shot sign that your partner is scared of long term commitment. If your relationship is new, the apprehension is very normal as he may want to spend more time with you before he is convinced that you right for him. However, if he has been avoiding or postponing the idea, it's very likely that he is not sure of his intentions.
2) Observing his body language is an excellent way to find out what's playing on his mind. If he avoids making eye contact while talking to you, it's possible that he's not very confident about what he says, he's distracted and doesn't seem to be interested in the conversation.
3) He is hesitant to hold your hand in public view. While you may believe there may be other reasons for doing so, but often, it means that he's not sure of his feelings or may not be interested in a long-term relationship. So, find a guy who wants to show you off to the world, even when you are in your worst outfit!
4) He doesn't call back if you have an argument and you hang up on him. Needless to say, he doesn't think you are 'important' enough and can easily do without you. Megha Agarwal says, "I often get into heated arguments with my boyfriend. At times, I get really irritated when he doesn't even listen to what I have to say and I just hang up on him. I expect him to at least call me back, if not immediately, then perhaps a while later. But he doesn't call me up unless I take the initiative. This really hurts me and makes me feel as if I am not at all important for him."
5) He argues with you on petty issues and doesn't respect your point of view. He's constantly reminding you of what he does for you, while never acknowledging your efforts.
6) Whenever you plan to go out for a hot date, he always insists on meeting up at his place. He doesn't really care whether you're in the mood to be cosy or not and literally forces his opinion on you. Gal, it's time for you to sit back and think 'really' hard whether it's love or lust.
7) If he is very careless in remembering your birthday or your wedding anniversary and always keeps saying he's too busy and doesn't have the time to remember/celebrate such occasions, it means he's making excuses or doesn't attach too much importance to 'togetherness'. Nishtha Mehta, who works in a telecom company says, "When I got married, my husband really pampered me on my birthday and made me feel extra special. But with time, it seems he's just lost interest and even forgets our anniversary these days. These small gestures really matter to me and I feel very disheartened when he doesn't even care to apologise for his absent mindedness, simply stating that he was pre-occupied with work."
8) If he's too possessive about his cell phone, his E-mails, letters or his cupboard for instance, chances are he might be hiding something from you. Richa Singh (name changed on request) , a housewife says, "My husband never lets me take his phone calls or read his messages, he gets really offended if I ever do so. He never lets me use his laptop which makes me even slightly suspicious. Even the thought that he's hiding something from me makes me feel insecure and helpless."
9) He often looks for reasons 'not' to meet up with you. He makes lame excuses and doesn't give a valid explanation. He says he will call you and then forgets. While such incidents may happen occasionally, if you have been observing these traits very frequently, it's likely that he's deliberately avoiding you.
10) He keeps comparing you to his colleague or a friend's girlfriend or doesn't let you speak to your guy pals, while he has a great time with his female friends, chances are that he is attracted to someone else or is not very convinced about having you as a life partner.
While finding out that your partner is cheating on you may be very painful, it's always better to know the harsh truth rather than regretting being fool hardy later. As they say, "If you love someone, set them free, if he comes back, he was yours, if he does not, he never was..."

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